|Photography by Kenneth J. Wong Photography|
For my birthday, my sister-in-law gave me a necklace she purchased while in Africa on missions. It was a small pearl heart on a delicate gold chain. She bought one for me, herself, her sister, and my mother-in-law. To be included in the gift meant the world to me. I was one of the Chen women.
I am strong advocate of family, but I have to admit, though I might not have verbalized it, prior to my marriage, family was blood only. People could get close, but family was a non-negotiable.
However, as time goes on, my concept of family is changing. I am beginning to find that the family unit in America is too broken and fragile to only let blood-related people to pass as family. The steadfast, unconditional loyalty and love that comes with being family needs to extend past the walls of our home.
As one of my friends recently posted: "I will always believe that families are not born, they're made."
For those who have family, we must cling to them. Such a thing is precious and something worthy of protection. However, we must also allow for inclusion so that all may know of the unconditional love that a family can give.