Tuesday, June 25, 2013
Misconceptions of Marriage
From that perspective, I formed a lot of assumptions on what marriage was, how it functioned, why it existed. Many of those assumptions were not entirely accurate.
One misconception that I believed was that in marriage you learn more about your spouse. Sounds logical, right? You're departing your life as an individual and becoming a unit. But I found that I was wrong. In marriage, you learn more about yourself.
Our marriage counselors from Between Two Trees told us in premarital counseling that marriage holds a mirror up in front of yourself. You are forced to confront, in a new and more intimate way than before, the best and worst parts of yourself.
This process, though, is extremely important to your marriage. Your spouse is that mirror. Sometimes, you don't want to look, but it is important that you do. You take a good look. You study what you see. Then you turn to your spouse and say, "I want to make myself better. And I want to do it for you and for me."
The process of making yourself a better, more perfect fit for your spouse is invaluable.
I'm new to this whole marriage thing, so beyond the realization that this process needs to happen, I have little experience. What I do anticipate though is only good: a stronger and richer marriage.
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