Digging through some old online archives, I stumbled upon gem from 2010. My husband was going to The Art Institute of Orange County, and I read this article in their school newspaper. I was drawn to it, saved it, and even today, still feel like it deserves a larger spot light. Men deserve it.
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Why Men Matter, Why You Should Care
by Lindsey Newman
the past century we have been a nation focused on gender and race
equality. Starting with women's suffrage in the early 1900s and 60s, to
the feminist movement of the 60s and 70s (not to mention the current
election of our first African-American president), we have made great
strides in our development as a country. However, it seems that as of
late we may be reversing our progress by ignoring the differences
inherent to what we were originally created to be: men and women.
was the last time you turned on the TV and saw an intelligent,
good-looking, moral man--who is also a father? If you watch American
media, the odds of finding one are slim to none. Think about it: the
ABC sitcom "According to Jim" features Jim Belushi as the dimwitted
husband with a hot wife, Courtney Thorne-Smith, who takes care of
everything, including Jim; the Fox animated show "Family Guy" features
Peter Griffin as the blubbering idiot who messes everything up while
wife Lois stands patiently by his side, offering constant support and
encouragement; the most recent commercials for cleaning products imply
that husbands make all the mess; and a tupperware company has an ad for a
container that's "husband-proof." But why is this? Why all the
negativity towards men?
It seems that in the last decade or so we
have moved so far away from feminism's original pro-female intent that
the movement's message has now become staunchly anti-male. The focus is
no longer on what is great about women, but rather on what is awful
about men. We may think this is silly and a non-issue because "we know
better" than to think every male is like that. The truth is even if we
do, children don't, and this constant bombardment with negative images
of male figures leads to desensitization, making them less likely to
recognize that the image is wrong, no matter what they've been taught.
To children, the image of men as idiots, bad guys, and losers seems
right. It is no longer that one man is bad; its that all men are. With
this perception constantly present in the media, young girls will grow
up thinking it is okay to mistreat men, and young boys will grow up
thinking it's okay to be mistreated by women.
founded on the principle that men are men and women are women--with
equal rights. But now it seems women are becoming men. Kathleen Parker
discusses this in her book "Save the Males: Why Men Matter, Why Women
Should Care." Parker distinguishes between two types of women:
"reasonable feminists," those who believe in fair pay, fair opportunity,
and independence; and the "extremists," those who have assumed both
roles, treating gender as interchangeable, excommunicating men from
their lives and the lives of children. Parker discusses the scientific
research in her book, much of which supports the fact that children of
both genders who have both positive male and female influences grow up
being much better off than children who are constantly forced to side
with one or the other.
Parker also talks about the various waves
of feminism and how they have affected our lives: "The first wave got
women the vote; second wave got them jobs and divorce; third wave made
them porn stars." Feminism is spinning out of control into a world
where females are discarding our traditional image of men as strong,
capable individuals. There is now a social and cultural degradation of
men. If there is some trait of a man that stands out, women try to fix
it. For example, primary school teachers are mostly female; therefore,
their teaching style benefits mostly females. Many young boys are told
by these teachers they have Attention Deficit Disorder simply because
they do not pay attention. However, it is not because they have ADD
that they aren't paying attention, its because they are bored. Boys
don't want arts and crafts projects: they want to run around and build
things. They want to knock things over, not make them pretty. These are
genetic differences between males and females. It is in our DNA. Men
were originally created to be hunters and bring home the food, while
women produced and raised children, tended to the home, and rewarded the
male with a prepared meal after a long day of hunting. Now obviously
we are not in the Stone Age, but that does not mean that all fundamental
differences between males and females have vanished into thin air.
cannot try conquering one gender or the other because both need to be
accepted and looked at as different. Take the Civil Rights Act of 1964:
it did not eliminate races (or racism); it made races equal under the
law. This is what feminism needs to do. We need to take a look at what
is happening with gender and reverse it. Perhaps women should take a
step back toward chivalry and practice being a bit more docile without
becoming subservient. Or maybe we should take a look at men and see them
as the human beings they are--alive with feelings, warmth and emotions.
After all, there would be no mankind without men.
Soli Deo Gloria.